Managing Anger

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Anger can cause many different symptoms. For example: You may notice that you have a constant short-fuse or you may feel agitated all or most of the time.  Quite small or insignificant things can quickly escalate into angry outbursts.  For instance, when driving or in busy places.  Managing anger is achieveable.

Some people can become aggressive when they are angry and direct their aggression at others. Some people supress their anger and take it out on themselves.

How might I feel?

Symptoms of anger can be physical or mental including:

A faster heartbeat

Tension in your muscles

Feeling hot or feeling that anger is boiling inside

Being unable to relax

Feeling irritated

What do other people say about it?

Clients say that they notice changes in their behaviour and that they shout at people. For example: shop assistants, other drivers, family and friends.  They say that their anger has an impact on their relationships and that they have lost friends because of shouting or getting into an argument.

They admit that they are often left feeling guilty about their reactions They know they are angry and acting out of character or that their dramatic explosive response does not match the situation, but they feel powerless to stop it.

Ways in which this could affect me…

Anger can affect all aspects of your life, including your work, your family and your social lives. Feeling constantly irritated can be exhausting.  Sometimes anger can be masking or causing other issues such as stress or anxiety. So people experiencing anger can be battling with other symptoms too such as disturbed sleep or constant worry.

Self Help: What can I do for managing anger?

It can sometimes help to try to recognise when you begin to feel angry and take a step back from what you are doing and take steps to try and calm down as early as possible.  It can help to count to 10, practice a breathing exercise or get outside for some fresh air.

Exercise can help too, consider running, walking, swimming or activities such as yoga to help with relaxation.

How can we support you?

We have counsellors who are experts in supporting clients with anger issues.  They can help clients get to the root of their anger by exploring emotions and helping clients with techniques to manage the anger and any underlying issues.

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